What fear can teach us.
As a certified chicken, this was big. I hate heights, hate going fast, and hate anything that puts me at risk of personal injury.Continue Reading
Self-care in the empty nest.
When I was a young, working mother of two, I would not have recognized self-care if it tied me to a massage table and kneaded my back.Continue Reading
Are worry and anxiety the same thing?*
The afternoon my husband carried our newborn upstairs and laid him in his crib, I became a worrier. How much is too much worrying?Continue Reading
A 9-11 Prayer.
Looking around at the children’s innocent faces, I thought, “What kind of world are they growing up in?”Continue Reading
Motherhood Lessons from an Empty Nest
I’m a slow learner of life sometimes, so the universe (or God, or a higher power) has no choice but to thwack me on the head with a spiritual 2X4 to make me pay attention. My biggest thwack was my son’s brain tumor.Continue Reading
Fear of abandonment. What people-pleasers should know
Since I wrote last month about fear of conflict and anger—the main drivers of my (fading!) people-pleasing—I’ve been mulling over the fear of abandonment, curious if it also fits into my puzzle. Here’s what I learned.Continue Reading
Fear and Anger and What Happens When They Intersect.
Anger has always been a tricky emotion for me. I feel it, and I know it’s normal and healthy, but I don’t always know what to do with it or how to express it in a constructive way.Continue Reading
What Does it Mean to Be Emboldened?
In the process of adding new content to my website, I came up with a phrase that grabbed me. As a writer, I loved the alliteration. As a recovering people-pleaser, I loved how it made me feel. I was smitten.Continue Reading
Let hope choose you.
I had this blog almost ready to send Wednesday morning. It started like this: “I choose hope in 2021, in spite of everything that could still go wrong—COVID, political turmoil, record snowstorms like we had here in upstate NY last week, failing to get a book deal.” Had I sent it, I would have felt foolish. That afternoon, watching the siege of the US Capital unfold, my hope was overpowered by fear and bewilderment. Yet hope still chooses me.Continue Reading
Living Life Small Leaves Room for Growth
Living life large seems to be what society values. Why didn’t it feel right for me?Continue Reading