Self-acceptance
Let hope choose you.
I had this blog almost ready to send Wednesday morning. It started like this: “I choose hope in 2021, in spite of everything that could still go wrong—COVID, political turmoil, record snowstorms like we had here in upstate NY last week, failing to get a book deal.” Had I sent it, I would have felt foolish. That afternoon, watching the siege of the US Capital unfold, my hope was overpowered by fear and bewilderment. Yet hope still chooses me.
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Living life large seems to be what society values. Why didn’t it feel right for me?
Continue ReadingOur Wake of Kindness
Sometimes, what looks like conflict-aversion is really a choice to be kind.
Continue ReadingAccountability matters–here's why.
Holding others accountable is hard for people-pleasers because it involves confrontation, which carries the risk of rejection. It’s less scary to pretend negative things don’t happen.
Continue ReadingPandemic Brain
Pandemic Brain is like a pinball machine. When I realized that was what was going on, I already felt better. Funny how naming a problem can do that.
Continue ReadingVulnerability, humility, and ego.
A recent coffee flood and ego-boosting news from the New York Times tie together many threads.
Continue ReadingStages of Grief during COVID-19.
I’m experiencing grief during this pandemic, as well as survivor’s guilt. Does that ring true for you?
Continue ReadingAs a people-pleaser, my truth holds me accountable.
For better or for worse, I’d rather have a hole the size of New Jersey in my wall than yell at the person who put it there.
Continue ReadingAn old introvert learns new tricks.
Before Mom died, she and Dad regularly ate lunch in the dining room of their senior facility. Then everything changed, including me.
Continue ReadingI'm in mental health therapy. It's no big deal.
I have a mental health therapist, and it’s no big deal, even if I am a little nervous about telling my story.
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