Older woman and midlife woman

Mom would have been proud.

By Karen DeBonis | October 20, 2019 |

Since my mom died a few weeks ago, I’ve felt compelled to write and post here more than usual. Up until now, I’ve honored my pledge to “under-whelm” your inbox by posting a blog only once a month. That goal was also self-serving in that I didn’t “have to” post here more often. (To clarify, I do write often, just not blogs for my website.)

Mom was one of the biggest supporters of my writing journey.

But here I am, my third post in less than a month. I hope you understand.

Mom was one of the biggest supporters of my writing journey and my goal of publishing my memoir. Before she died, I had told her about a big “first” for me: being interviewed about my memoir on the Midlife A-Go-Go podcast. Mom was excited, but she never got to listen.

I wish I could hear her voice.

When the interview first aired last week, I believe Mom heard it. I believe she knows all that goes on in my life, more so than she did while she was earthbound. But still, I find myself waiting for her call to tell me how proud she is. I wish I could hear her voice. I imagine it, I hear it in my head, but I ache for the real thing.

Since I won’t hear from Mom, maybe you can listen for a few minutes and tell me your thoughts. It would give me a smile. Mom, too.

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  • Karen DeBonis

    Karen DeBonis writes about motherhood, people-pleasing, and personal growth, the entangled mix told in her memoir "Growth: A Mother, Her Son, and the Brain Tumor They Survived" forthcoming in spring 2023. Subscribe today to receive Chapter 1: A Reckoning.

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  1. Mary Ellen Pelus on October 20, 2019 at 3:31 PM

    I finally got to hear the entire podcast yesterday. It was tremendous! You carried yourself very well during the interview. I hope you get much positive feedback, and more readers for both the blog and your memoir after this interview. Heads up for anyone having difficulty getting the whole thing to play, it kept stopping after only 5 minutes until I played it on my iTunes podcasts.

    • Karen DeBonis on October 20, 2019 at 10:08 PM

      Thanks so much, Mary Ellen. I hope for positive feedback, too! And thanks for the heads up about using iTunes – I’ll pass that on if I hear that anyone has trouble.

  2. Jack Herlocker on October 20, 2019 at 4:44 PM

    I liked Valerie’s interview style. It feels like eavesdropping on two folks chatting at a coffee shop the next table over.

    I also learned a few things about you, Karen, and here I thought i had a pretty good picture of your life! So obviously I’ll have to buy your book. 😊

    • Karen DeBonis on October 21, 2019 at 11:01 AM

      Valerie is a pro, for sure. And I think anyone who doesn’t know everything about me will have to buy my book. I’ll tell them Jack recommends it. lol!

  3. Gail Boenning on October 21, 2019 at 4:34 PM

    Karen–What a great conversation! Thank you for sharing. I recently told a connection I’m a recovering “people pleaser”. Love that you touched on that in the interview. Look forward to your book!

  4. Mary K Tilghman Writes on October 22, 2019 at 10:58 AM

    My mom too supported my writing, even to the point of reading my first terrible attempt at a novel. Your sweet, affectionate post reminded me of that too. Aren’t we lucky to have mothers so proud of what we do? Thanks for sharing.

    • Karen DeBonis on October 22, 2019 at 3:45 PM

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Mary. The older I get, the more I realize what a blessing both of my supportive parents have been. We are lucky indeed!

  5. 364life.com on October 25, 2019 at 11:19 AM

    Karen. Sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing. Kevin

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