I don’t set writing goals like other writers, some of whom shoot for daily or monthly word counts, or to finish a chapter, or to post on their website or social media daily. 

I don’t set those goals because I never know how many hours in a day, if any, I’ll be able to write. My health challenges determine the course of my day.

But today, I changed my mind. I’m setting a goal in recognition of May as Brain Tumor Awareness Month. 

My goal this month is to post on my website daily, and then share it to my social media accounts. I started one day late, so that will be 30 consecutive posts. Yikes! Writers and bloggers do this all the time, but for me it’s a hurdle.

I do this in honor of Matt, my son who lives every day with a brain tumor, diagnosed when he was 11. Now, at 31, he’s doing great, but he’s faced more pain and discomfort, emotional and physical, than I face now, so I can certainly manage a daily post.

Life is full of hurdles to overcome. Mine pales in comparison to so many others’. 

If you face a hurdle, especially an extended one, my wish for you:

One step forward today,

One more pain free minute or hour today than you had yesterday,

One more moment of peace than usual.

One inch higher to clearing that hurdle, feeling it beneath and behind you.

Here’s to you, Matt, with endless love and admiration.





  • An emerging writer in upstate, NY, Karen DeBonis tells her story on her website, in publications like the NY Times, (a Tiny Love Story), in her “Become Emboldened” projects, and elsewhere. "Portrait of a People-Pleaser and the Son Who Paid the Price", Karen’s transformational memoir about a woman’s quest for authenticity and the courage to speak her truth, is currently available for representation.

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  1. Jack Herlocker on May 3, 2018 at 1:19 AM

    Karen… although I applaud your goal and your reason behind it, PLEASE do not push yourself too far. Please? Might I suggest you prep some boilerplate in advance, just in case of Bad Days? We want you around for the long run, not just the month of May. Okay, dear lady?

  2. Karen DeBonis on May 3, 2018 at 10:49 AM

    Now I know why Deb loves you. (Well, I already knew, but this reinforces it.) You are just a sweetheart, Jack. I’d say you’re the nicest guy anywhere, but (sorry Deb), Michael has that title. And you’re smart, too! I’ve already done exactly what you’ve suggested – I have a running list of posts so I am prepared for really bad days. I PROMISE you, I will prioritize my health!! XXOO I HAVE to get better so when the Today show calls to interview me about my memoir, I’m ready!!

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