My son Matt and me.
My son Matt and me.

I’m so glad you stopped by. C’mon in and get comfortable because I have a story to tell you.

Post-traumatic growth: A mom, her son, and the brain tumor they survived.

The story begins in 1997 when my eleven-year-old son was diagnosed with a brain tumor. But really, the story begins in 1986 when he was born, and I discovered that, in spite of being mature and well-educated and happily married and growing up as the oldest daughter in a large family, I wasn’t prepared for the challenges of being a mom.

But really, the story begins when I was a little girl and I learned to be agreeable because that was the only option for little girls back then. Raised in one of the nicest families in the world, I never learned how not to be nice, even when I grew to adulthood, even when my son’s puzzling deterioration called for me to shed my cloak of agreeableness.

I couldn’t stand up for my son because I’d never learned to stand up for myself.

It’s a hard truth to admit, but I tell my story so that others like me may learn from my journey. And yes, there are others. I’ve recognize them in their false agreeablenss as they have probably recognize me, or at least the old me.

I’ll never be the bad-ass, kick-ass woman like those you may know, but I’m learning to stand my ground. My son’s brain tumor saga pushed me to the limits of what I was capable of as a mother, but I survived. I grew stronger. Every day, I’m better, which is why mine is a story of post-traumatic growth.

Mine is a story of post-traumatic growth.

Someday in the not too distant future, my memoir will be a book that you can savor from cover to cover, but for now, you can read my essays and posts about life lessons, self-acceptance, and of course, personal growth. To see them, click on “blog” in the menu bar.

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